"Love sucks. Why
do fools fall in love. Love is a series of constant
heartaches." Haven't I heard these kinds of phrases,
or others like them many times during my life?
I often hear songs on the radio that
bring back the pain of love, in the mood of the music,
and in the words each singer mournfully cries out.
Usually it strikes at the depths of my heart too.
Why does pain seem to be so much a part
of love? How can something that is supposed to be so
wonderful bring so many tears and heartaches? It seems
that because such pain comes to me in the midst of love,
or from someone I love most, that love must truly suck at
times. Sometimes that pain comes from disappointment, or
when I start wanting someone to be different, or when
they want me to be different. Maybe if I look closely, I
can see that when I felt pain, it was because love had
been replaced by wishful thinking, or other hidden
desires. Perhaps I, or my partner didn't even realize it was
But when I do look closely, pain
has often come hot on the heels of rejection of some
kind. Inside, I know that love contains true acceptance,
Just for Today
In my heart, I know that genuine love
brings joy, not hurt, and that when love brings tears,
they should be tears of happiness, or healing.
Today I'll take a closer look at
the" love" I experienced in past relationships,
and see what needs were disguised as love. In doing so,
I'll start restoring my faith in genuine love - something
we all deserve.
There are places in the heart that do
not yet exist. Pain must be in order that they be. - Leon
Tip by Bernd Hansen of Relationshipweb