The Relationship is more important than the issue
Can you think of a recent example where if you could replay the incident in your relationship you would have done things differently? Could you have made a different choice of how to respond?
We often make the issue more important than the relationship and so weaken the relationship. But usually the relationship is more important than the issue. If we can bear that in mind we can choose to behave in ways that will strengthen rather than undermine your relationship.
Can you think of a couple of occasions recently where minor issues have been blown out of all proportion and as a result, your relationship was damaged.
If you had been able to put the relationship first how could you have acted differently?
What can you do to remind yourself that your marriage is more important than these issues? When we learn to do this we are taking responsibility for the quality of our relationship and the consequences of our actions. Our own choices can make our relationship strong or weak. What do you want for the future of your marriage?
Tip by Liz Percival