Seven steps to marital Ecstacy
By Joe Beam
Step Three— Modify Each Spouse’s Beliefs or Perspectives to Positive Views About:
Marriage — A person's desire to work on a marriage usually increases when he or she discovers unnoticed nuances of the marriage and subsequently evaluates the real value of the relationship to his or her life. As the desire increases, the speed the marriage improves increases too.
Future — Each spouse works more intently when he or she can develop a hopeful vision of their future together. Every spouse can develop that positive vision, no matter what has transpired before, when given a viable view of what the future can be. When a positive vision of the future exists the relationship takes on a new life.
Mate — Discovering new levels of intimacy is one of the essential keys for developing marital ecstasy. The most important part of developing deep intimacy is to learn the "hidden" dimensions of each other. That process continues in each of the following steps. It starts here as each learns more about the other’s everyday life and feelings.