When You Lose The One You Love
By David & Maureen Brown
Everyone will have his or her own ways to remember the person who died, husband, wife, partner, friend, child etc.
Talk about them, mention their name as often as you can and put the emphasis on the good things that happened when they were alive. Things you did together, holidays and hobbies shared together. Members of the family or close friends might appreciate a photograph or a small object as a reminder. For some people the lighting of a candle from time to time can also be a helpful thing to do.
Most important will be your own memories.
The Need to Mourn
In time gone by there was more formality in mourning, and ritual expressions of grief were part of the lifestyle. Nowadays, with the passing of that formality, we may overlook the need to mourn, but it is essential to our well being and our recovery. We need to allow ourselves this time to mourn and to grieve and we should allow it in others and seek to help them.
Many can find additional solace through a faith and this is not only for regular attendees at places of worship. If you have always had strong beliefs you may find that your faith is shaken when someone you love dies. Whatever your personal situation, a local minister is there to offer you advice and support. Donít be afraid to ask for help even though you do not regularly attend worship. Personal faith and philosophy of outlook can be of enormous comfort in bereavement. If you need to speak to a Hospital Chaplain, for instance, donít hesitate to contact them.